Harsh Punishment: How It Backfires

In the two previous articles, I showed what can happen when you allow intense frustration to govern how you manage children: parents resort to punishment rather than using discipline. Following this further, when you punish using any of the techniques I listed in the last article (verbal threats, guilt, shame, physical pain, or the silent treatment), it can become harsh very quickly. As a result, harsh punishment can produce undue stress on children as well as some real negative problems. For starters:

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Punishment: 5 Negative Consequences

Today we are going to look further into the idea of using punishment and the 5 negative consequences that can follow. Find out if your child is experiencing any of the 5 negative consequences of punishment. I promise you're going to be surprised at what you'll discover!

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Vacation Warning!

Last week I spoke with a concerned mom whose child struggles with change, especially while traveling. Her question was simple, yet pointed: “How do I maximize the joy and reduce the tears and tantrums during my vacation? Here was my response:

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Listening Has Consequences!

Listening has both positive and negative consequences. Discover how to become more patient so that you can give your children everything they need to bond with you and become compassionate and independent little people who thrive.

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How to Really Listen to Kids

With the challenges you face each day as a busy parent, knowing how to really listen to kids is a real challenge. For example, as Joey came home from school he spent the first five minutes complaining to his mom about conflicts on the playground that day. In response, Joey's mom made statements like:

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How to Let Go of Daily Stress

As a loving parent, you know how hard it is to be compassionate and patient when you're stressed out. As such, it's really important to learn how let go of daily stress because parenting is full of situations that produce it. Keep in mind that if you are driving kids from one event to another, fixing a healthy meal, or dealing with a child who is having a major meltdown, these events are not the root cause of your stress.

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Are You Too Hard On Yourself?

I just finished interviewing a group of moms about the challenges of parenthood. One of the questions I asked was, “Are you too hard on yourself?” The feedback I received was pretty eye-opening!

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