How To Thrive At Your In-law’s House

Dave and Rhonda are headed to his parent’s house for a two-week vacation. His parents are very energetic and love to schedule lots of activities. Since Dave and Rhonda run what they call a “laid-back” home, they are a bit worried about the effect that will have on their children. Here are four key elements to consider:

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Misbehavior: How To Manage It

So what do you do when your little-guy misbehaves and throws sand at his brother while playing on the beach? To answer that question, we need to rethink the idea of discipline. Doing so will help you achieve your immediate goals of getting your kids to do the right thing in the moment, as well as your longer-range goals of helping them become good people, who are happy, successful, kind, responsible, and even self-disciplined. It will also strengthen the emotional bond between the two of you in the process!

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Freedom is Both Caught and Taught

In between the great food and fireworks you will encounter tomorrow, I want to remind you of two things: 1) The price our forefathers paid for our freedom; 2) the price you will need to pay so your child can learn how to handle his freedom and independence. In the end, freedom is both caught and taught.

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Harsh Punishment: How It Backfires

In the two previous articles, I showed what can happen when you allow intense frustration to govern how you manage children: parents resort to punishment rather than using discipline. Following this further, when you punish using any of the techniques I listed in the last article (verbal threats, guilt, shame, physical pain, or the silent treatment), it can become harsh very quickly. As a result, harsh punishment can produce undue stress on children as well as some real negative problems. For starters:

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Punishment: 5 Negative Consequences

Today we are going to look further into the idea of using punishment and the 5 negative consequences that can follow. Find out if your child is experiencing any of the 5 negative consequences of punishment. I promise you're going to be surprised at what you'll discover!

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Vacation Warning!

Last week I spoke with a concerned mom whose child struggles with change, especially while traveling. Her question was simple, yet pointed: “How do I maximize the joy and reduce the tears and tantrums during my vacation? Here was my response:

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